When are you going to have another baby?
Oh … the infamous 2nd child question.
As Cadens first birthday is approaching I’m finding myself answering that question a little too often. I do recall myself saying “when CK is one I’d like to start trying for his brother or sister” mind you this is when I wanted a Brady bunch family. Now that his birthday is approaching super duper fast I’m so up in the air about that little statement I made months back.
You see, a part of me wants to get the show on the road and make our family and be done with the whole pregnancy, newborn stages. I want to feel like our family is complete and at this point we KNOW we want another baby. And don’t get me wrong I love little babies but as CK gets older I’m enjoying him more and more. I’m realizing I’m not as much as an itty bitty baby person as I thought I was. I love that CK is becoming more independent and well I’m not going to lie I love my sleep. But to feel the affection back from him is amazing. All the hugs and kisses just melts my heart. So of course we want another one and would be thrilled to have another CK running around.
But the other part of me is thinking I don’t know if I’m ready to start the process all over again. Its almost a 2 year commitment where my body isn’t mine and I’m not really the type of person that loves pregnancy. I think it’s an amazing experience and it’s awesome to feel your baby inside you but I don’t LOVE the weight gain, the aches, pains, the hormones, and the constant growing. At this point I’m really enjoying my “time off” from making a baby and feel good about my body again. But at the same time you just never know what is going to happen and it could take us years to have another baby.
I’ll never forget when my sister in law told me “when you can plan a baby it’s the hardest thing in the world.” And she’s so right. I can only imagine what women are going through who are doing IVF when they can plan the actual week or even day. Just trying to plan the month to start trying is making me crazy. It seems that there is never really a “good time” to have a baby. There is always a vacation, party or season that you want to enjoy or avoid before you get pregnant again. I honestly feel like there is a constant battle in my mind. Sounds a little psycho I know, but I’m so back and forth. One day I’ll have baby fever and then the next I’m like nah I could hold off for a while.
I want to put all the planning aside and “whatever happens happens” but we said that last time and got pregnant a week after our wedding. So …. when someone asks me that question I’m going to say “I have no idea”.
How did or will you decide when you want to try for baby #2?
What do you say when someone asks you when baby #2 is coming?