Getting rid of the Pacifier

January 17, 2013 | By More

We have always planned on letting Caden have his paci until he turned 2. We’ve always thought that two was a pretty fair age. He’s young enough so it doesn’t create a huge attachment problem but old enough to understand that pacifiers are for babies. So, that was pretty much the plan until Nate made a very valid point.

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“Don’t you think he’s going to be really confused when the baby comes and the baby has a paci but he can’t.” (He’ll be 2 when the baby comes)

Uh, yeah. Good point.

So after much thought. We decided to start the weaning process now so by the time the new baby comes he knows that pacifiers are for babies and not big boys. We were actually doing really well with the whole paci thing but then over the holidays he ended up getting a cold, then the flu / stomach virus and on top of that cut a tooth. Plus all the traveling we did, it was a little rough on him and he had his paci the majority of the time. The down fall is that we took a few steps back.

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Operation Paci Drop also known as OPD officially started on Monday. We are now on our 4th day of only having the paci when he goes to sleep for his nap or bedtime. No ifs, ands or butts. As soon as he wakes up, before we even go downstairs or leave his room I tell him to put his paci in his crib. The first day he cried, big tears streamed down his cheeks. The 2nd day he did better and actually gave me the paci but still cried. The 3rd day he was a tad better but still cried. And this morning he dropped it out of his mouth and just starred at it. Thought about it for a minute and then cried. It’s improving. I really think after a week of sticking to this plan he’ll understand that the Paci is for night-night only and it won’t be so upsetting for him to give it up in the mornings.

I’m not going to lie though, I’ve almost given in a couple of times. To see those tears streaming down his face is heartbreaking and I feel like the meanest mom in the world. But I know deep down that if I give in just even a little bit it will only make the process longer. I just have to keep reminding myself to stick with it and it will all be worth it in the end. That this sadness is only temporarily.

On the brighter side he doesn’t seem like he really misses it all during the day. The only time I can really tell that he wants it is if he’s in the car. Especially around his nap time. It’s almost like he can’t get comfortable without it.

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Once we get down to just using it while he sleeps, we’ll wait till after we transition to the big boy bed to wean him from it completely. I’m looking forward to that paci free night. But I have a feeling that will be the hardest part because he does wake up in the middle of the night looking for his paci if it falls out of his mouth.

I know there are SO many different ways to break the pacifier habit.

How did you get rid of your child’s Pacifier?

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  1. We throw Paci parties. Of course we wean them down, like you did, so they can only use it at nap or bed, and then we have a celebration. This weekend we’re taking Lil C to Build a Bear and she’s going to pick a stuffed animal and place her paci inside and be done….crossing my fingers that she takes it well. We did the same with Miss A and she cried the first day and said she wanted her paci back but after that she did just fine.

    Good luck!

  2. We have been doing it just at night and nap time for a few months now and it’s going just fine. Not sure how/when I’ll deal with getting rid of it at night, but maybe you’ll have some tips as you go. ;-)

  3. Erika says:

    Our pacifier weaning days are coming so I’m looking into how to do this. I am kinda dreading it! Right now he goes to bed/nap with 2 pacifiers. This was great when one would fall out of the crib and we didn’t have to go in to help him but I can also see this being a problem come wean time. I’ve heard a lot of people just cut the tip off so there isn’t anything for them to really suck on so we might try that.

    • Susan says:

      Actually one of my plans is to poke a hole in it so it doesn’t suction right and I’m hoping that will do the trick! I’ll let you know if it works!

  4. I shouldn’t even tell you this, but C gave up the paci all by herself at 8 months. Like, I would try to give it to her to go to sleep and she would push it away and spit it out. I don’t know how or why but I guess she decided she was done with it. I was relieved not to have to wean her off the paci. Good luck, it sounds like you guys are on the right path!

    • Susan says:

      That’s awesome, I still have a little hope that CK will just one day not want them to go to sleep. We’ll see. So far, he’s done great and actually has been quite the happy toddler since he hasn’t had his paci during the day. Maybe, just maybe he’ll forget it about it one night and the rest will be history. ha-ha I know, VERY wishful thinking!

  5. Jessie says:

    We didn’t want to have a whole issue with Lyric’s pacifier and I had read a few books that said 6 months was a good time to do it (to avoid oral fixation) so that’s what we did. (She’s the only 16 month old I know who doesn’t put everything in her mouth!). At that point she only used it when asleep anyway but I just put her down for her morning nap without offering and when she fell asleep just fine I gathered all of them up and threw them in the trash. We’re BIG fans of cold turkey! Did the same thing with weaning from BFing and the swaddle.

    • Susan says:

      That’s good that you had an easy transition. Caden actually didn’t even really start liking the paci until I stopped breastfeeding him. I wish I could do the whole cold turkey thing but with everything we’ve done I’ve gradually phased things out. (I think it’s more so for me rather than him :) )

  6. Christie
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    I had many people warn me about giving Riley a paci (all different reasons that I took with a grain of salt), so was happy when she wasn’t a big fan anyway. NOW- i’d LOVE to have had her hooked on a paci! Instead, she sucks on her 2 middle fingers, which drives me insane. You can take away a paci (eventually) but not their hands. Keep up the good work, I think doing it now is a great idea!

    • Susan says:

      This is actually one reason I was really FOR the paci. I sucked my thumb from birth until I was in elementary school and it really messed up my teeth and caused me to have an over bite. Which of course resulted in having to get braces and a retainer. So, yes in that aspect I’m all for the paci!

      • Christie
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        That is my biggest fear for her- braces, retainer… okay so it’s my biggest fear for myself more so… bills, bills, bills! LOL! At least the braces did you good- you’re beautiful =)
        Emery will certainly be getting a paci!