After a whole year of being a new mom you would think I would finally have my sh%& together. I don’t and I’ll be the first one to admit it. These last 12 months Ive been learning how to live like a parent, care for a little guy and find a system that works for our household and although I have figured out a lot, I still struggle with a few important issues.
I still struggle with cooking. Nate took over a lot of the cooking especially when CK was really little. I was all focused on him, feeding him, holding him etc so Nate would come home and cook dinner. The problem is, he still does. Don’t get me wrong Nate loves to cook, and in fact he probably won’t want to give up all the nights he cooks but now that Caden is older and I’m the stay at home mom; there is no reason I can’t cook at least 3 times a week for my family.
I still struggle with taking a break. Being around CK 24/7 is a blessing but being around anyone that long; you deserve a break and I know that. I had good intentions of finding a sitter. And actually found a couple but haven’t been consistent on the whole babysitter coming every week thing.
I still struggle getting back to church. Nate and I went to church every Sunday while I was pregnant and when CK was small enough to take him into the service with us. We tried dropping him off in the church nursery once and he was hysterical and we never tried again; more so because his sleep and nap schedule didn’t really go well with the service times. Either way this is something we need to start doing again.
I still struggle with exercising. I’ve been trying to go to the gym every Tuesday and Thursday nights for Pilates while Nate stays home with CK but I’ve been slacking. It’s so incredibly hard for me to get motivated when I know down the road I’m (hopefully) going to gain another 40lbs. with another pregnancy. It’s been so hard to get over this mind set of “what’s the point of working my ass off and get really toned to be back in the same spot”. Not to mention the gym day care hours haven’t worked out with Caden’s nap and sleep schedule so day time trips to the gym haven’t been an option. Excuses? maybe.
And lastly ..
I still struggle trying to put our relationship first. If you’ve been a reader for a while you may remember reading a post I did, Remembering who came first. If you haven’t check it out you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about. But I am still struggling with putting Nate and I first before Caden.
Now that’ I’ve put these out there; all I have to do is find a solution!
I hope I’m not alone on this …
What do you still struggle with after having children?
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