We just remember that we were here first.
Heidi Klum and Seal said this years ago in an interview about why their marriage has lasted so long. This has stuck with me ever since. Before I got married or even engaged I had always told myself that I wanted to put Nate and I before our kids. I think it’s important that the foundation of your family stays strong.
Fast Forward .>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> marriage, baby >>> (screech)
As you can tell by my blog I am head over heels in love with our baby. Quite possibly a little obsessed. So putting Nate and I first hasn’t happened the way I had planned. Caden is the main focus right now. No matter how hard I try, he IS the center of our universe.
Yesterday morning it was the usual butt dragging out of my bed into Caden’s room to feed him. Except this time I wasn’t as rested. We’ve been battling the sleep bug. Ugh. Once finished I took him in our room where his swing was and decided to put him in it, in hopes that we could get a couple more hours of sleep. It’s was still dark out due to the time change and as I’m laying my head back down on my comfy pillow (Nate is already up and headed to the gym) I hear this crinkle sound. … what in the … ?
It’s a card with Mrs. Kennedy on it.
I’m thinking what is this for …
As I open it up and start reading it, I can’t help but cry. It was a card from my hubby telling me how great and wonderful I am as a wife and mom and how much he loves me. It was the sweetest thing that my husband could ever have done. It brought me back to the days where it was just him and I. The first 4 years when we traveled, went out to awesome dinners, had date nights all the time, went on little adventures and didn’t have a care in the world.
I definitely miss those days sometimes.
As I lay back down I start thinking and realizing how important it is to do little things for your spouse. When a baby comes into this world you get all caught up with all the changes and attention that the baby needs. It’s very easy to lose the focus on you and your spouse. Nate and I aren’t able to spend the time together like before, and it’s a sacrifice that we chose. And honestly Caden is the best thing that’s happened to us but …
It’s important to remember Who came First.
I know it’s hard, especially us moms because we get all caught up in our babies and it’s hard to see anything past that. Especially if you have a baby hanging on you all day, throwing up on you or worse a baby that cries all the time … the last thing you may want to do is have another person touching you. (I know sometimes when Nate gets home from work all I want to do is have 20 minutes to myself to get a nice hot shower in, no talking, no distractions, no spit up, no dirty diapers and no crying. Just peace and quiet. I know you other moms can relate). But it’s important to remember where it all started.
It’s important to remind each other that the love is still there. It’s important to do the little things like a simple card, saying I love you, cuddling on the couch, holding hands or having date night. I believe this is what will hold you together and remind you that even through all the chaos, hell the chaos you created is because of the love that you two have.
So maybe it’s selfish, maybe it’s not … But We were here first.
Do you think it’s selfish to put your relationship before your baby?